Help Me Hera: I can’t stop stalking my boyfriend’s ex on Instagram | The Spinoff

I know it’s just my own insecurity, but I can’t help feeling like a consolation prize. Want Hera’s help? Email your problem to helpme@thespinoff.co.nz or fill out this form. Hi Hera, When I first met my boyfriend, he was just getting over a breakup. This didn’t bother me as we both wanted something casual. I was also getting over someone and we talked a lot about our exes together. A little while later, we realised we were developing feelings for each other, and started dating. We’ve been together for a year, and things have been great. But I’m haunted by memories of the things he said about his ex-girlfriend. I’m not against people being friends with their exes. They went through some intense stuff together, and even though they’re not regularly in contact, I know she’ll always be an important part of his life. But I can’t stop obsessing over this girl, and feeling like I’m not good enough.  Recently, I found her Instagram account, and I can’t stop looking at her pictures. I don’t know why this is such a big deal to me, but I can’t help feeling second best. His ex is gorgeous and is probably more his
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